How do you even begin to process an unexpected pregnancy? Maybe you are excited to be a parent. Or maybe this is not what you want so you are considering abortion. Or maybe you are undecided about what to do next.
If you are not sure what you want to do with your unplanned pregnancy, here are some ways to begin processing this untimely event.
How to begin processing my unplanned pregnancy
1. Let yourself have conflicting emotions
It’s okay if you aren’t excited when you see the second line on the pregnancy test. Most women with unplanned pregnancies feel afraid and sad. It’s okay if you are feeling any of these emotions today. And it’s also okay if you feel a sliver of excitement. Maybe you have always wanted to be a mom, but just now right now. Or maybe you’re caring for other children already and adding one more feels impossible and overwhelming.
Whatever your situation is, it’s okay to feel both sadness and excitement. Both positive and negative emotions can happen at the same time. It’s okay to cry, because this is a big deal!
2. Get to the root of what you’re feeling
It’s normal to feel sadness when you find out your life is about to change in a way you haven’t planned. Understanding why you feel this way will help you be more confident in your decision.
You probably have a lot of questions and fears about the future. How will I make this work? What about my plans for the future? Am I really capable of doing this? Am I even mom material? It’s normal for doubts and fears to creep in. But don’t let fear make your pregnancy decision for you.
If you’re looking for a confidential place to process these emotions, make an appointment with Southside Women’s Services today. We care about your mental and emotional health.
3. Know all your pregnancy options
Processing how you feel about all of your pregnancy options will help you make the decision that is right for you.
Our client advocates can walk you through parenting, adoption, and abortion options and help you find the right support and resources you need.
4. Don’t rush your decision
Internally you might be feeling rushed, like you must hurry and make a decision before it’s too late. The truth is, every one of your options (carry, terminate, or place for adoption) remains available throughout every stage of pregnancy. So, give yourself the gift of time.
It’s important to think without self-imposed pressure through each option and consider the impact both short-term and long-term. This is a big decision that only you can make for yourself. You are the one who makes the decision, but also the one who carries the weight of your choice. It’s okay to take time to decide.
5. Find the right support
You don’t have to do this alone. Find positive people who see the best in you and who know you well. If you don’t have anyone you can talk to, you can always find a compassionate and supportive place at Southside Women’s Services. For the last 41 years, our clinic team has been committed to helping women process and navigate their unexpected pregnancies with care. You can trust the professionals at Southside Women’s Services.
Make an appointment to find the support, answers, and care you need. You are not alone.
Ultimately, this is a big decision for you. We are committed to the best care for you. We will listen without judgment and help you feel more confident in your decision.